ON A MISSION!

I am on a mission to teach, train, educate, empower, but more importantly to tell women everywhere that it is possible to be  free of every form of bondage there is.  From hurt, shame, disappointment, anger, rejection, abandonment, resentment, bitterness and negativity.

How do I do this?

1. 1.       By telling you that the love of God transcends every barrier, every negative word spoken, every hurtful thing said.
2. 2.       By telling you that it is possible to look at yourself in the mirror and survive what your see, what you feel, what you understand, what you think and what you know.
3. 3.       It is possible to remember the past and put it into its rightful place PAST gone, never to be seen again and move on to a better brighter future, that is not muddied by bitterness, shame, guilt, anxiety, fear etc.  You must let go!
4. 4.       By telling you that God walks through each step with you and carries you.  That He is faithful to that scripture; “ I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
5. 5.       By telling you that to build again you must clean your foundation so that what is built is whole complete lacking nothing.
6. 6.       By telling that in order to not live a miserable existence for the rest of your life you must go through the process.  If you truly want to change. 
7.  Tell me are you bold enough, bad enough, have courage enough,

a.       Do you really want to change? Or is it to comfortable where you are…. just existing?

b.      Do you believe that the life you are living is your best life?

c.       Do you believe that this is all that God has for you to do, to experience, to enjoy?

d.      Have you found the truth or are there hidden things, secret things that you hide that you don’t even want to acknowledge?

Scared, fearful, hear is an idea just do it anyway. The benefits are far greater than where you are now.

See I am on a mission, I can tell you my story, to build, to empower, to encourage you but the choice to change to accept that  you need to make a change is yours to make.  The one thing I have learned over the past 6 years is that God will not override your will.  He will stay with us no matter what , he is a constant presence but He will not force you to change.   The choice is yours.

I admonish you .. accept the challenge the ending will be GLORIOUS! 

BLESSINGS!

THE ARCHITECT

The blueprints are drawn, the site has been selected and approved, now all that he has envisioned is about to be put into place, about to be built.  He goes to the site one more time and considers the empty space.   As he stands and considers the space and the place, he looks at the blue prints laid out before him on the hood of the car. At this point he has his greatest moment of clarity. A vision is given and he sees his building at all stages of development. 

He sees the materials: the blocks, the steel beams, the tools, the piping, the air condition ducts, the electrical wiring, the plumbing, the windows, the doors, paint, the furniture, the tiles, the carpeting and all the other things that would go into the construction of the building.  Like a conductor or master puppeteer he begins to create. 

He sees the raw materials begin to take shape.  He sees the floors get poured, the plumbing pipes laid, the electrical wires run for every room.  He sees the drywall go up, the plaster smoothed on the walls with loving care and pride.  He is patient because he knows it must be built with precision and care with love and it must be built strong.  So it will stand the test of time.  He builds each piece precise, each part perfect, He builds.  7 stories high this building.   It will be his greatest masterpiece yet. Not because of size or technology mind you but because it is unique in design, special, different from any of the others it will stand alone.

As he builds he removes useless things, empty spaces, things that are redundant, that are not needed.  He continues to build, to pass inspections and past delays.  He builds letting nothing stop him or get in his path.  He is relentless in his pursuit of the vision, of the dream, of the plan.

Finally, finally it’s completed. He looks back at what it took to get to this point, the pain, the sacrifice, the stress, to bring this vision to reality.  He smiles because it was worth it all.

Now he sees the people as they come to occupy, as they move in.  Excited to live and work in this new shiny magnificent building.  For a while as he watches, they take pride in it, they take care of it.  Then the building begins to get old, it isn’t shiny and new anymore, it begins to deteriorate and the people, who were once proud, don’t check anymore.  They take it for granted, kick it, scream at it, treat it terribly and neglect it.It begins to fall apart, the plumbing fails, the electrical is faulty.  There have been no upgrades, no proper maintenance.  They leave and the building sits there seemingly without hope, without life, with no one to look after it or to care.  But there is a light, there is hope!

He is sad to see something so beautiful go to waste. But he knows that his building is special and unique and different because he is building it with HOPE, FAITH, LOVE for these are the fabrics, the blocks, the cement, the material, the foundation that will with stand the bad treatment, the vagaries of the weather, the neglect, the rejection, the abandonment, all the pain, bitterness, anger, resentment and hurt.  That`s what the light is HOPE, FAITH, LOVE.

As the vision closes and though he is sad to see what happens in the future, he gives the contractor the nod to break ground, yes build it!  He is compelled to build it, because already there is a new vision, a new building to create, to build and he must keep going.  He must build it, he is compelled to because …… Love DEMANDS IT!

WHAT DO YOU WANT HER TO KNOW?

What do you want her to know?

To start off our discussion I pose a question: What do you want your daughter to know?  What is it that you wanted to know at her age?  Do you have the courage to tell her, to sit and have a candid conversation with her, to look her in the eye? Or are you avoiding and hoping she picks it up along the way? Can you tell her what you want her to know in love and not like someone is pulling your teeth or are you terrified because of your past?  Terrified of someone finding out something that has kept you in bondage for so long?

I dare you to take God at his word, to believe that He is who he says he is, that he has not forgotten you, or  forsaken you and that what he has promised in his word will come to pass.  Talk to your daughters, tell them what you want them to know, share with them why you are over protective, why you are rough, why you reject them when you know they are hurting, why you dismiss them but don't mean to.  Tell them about your relationship with your mother and what you needed to hear as you were growing up.  Tell them the things that may have made a difference in the choices you made in life.  Tell them before it’s too late.

Tell them how never hearing I love you made you seek love in all the wrong places.  Tell them how abandonment and rejection made you build a wall around your heart to keep the hurt out and there by people also.  Tell them why you are the way you are and if you don't know why, then begin to ask God to show you, teach you, put you in the place where you can get help to understand why you are the way you are.  Be willing to face yourself, take courage and be brave and search, because if you truly want a better life for your daughter you owe it to yourself and to them to go on this journey.

Often we think of a better life as material possessions but I am learning that it is also emotional and spiritual well-being , we can have all the material possessions in the world and still be the most miserable people in the world.  People will look at us and think we have it all together but on the inside we are miserable, unhappy people, dying on the inside and often times we don't know or understand why.  Take back the power that God has given you over that thing in your childhood, life etc. stop letting it run, rule and reign over you.

You are the victor here don't you know that? The battle has already been won and there are no losers.

So Be Brave, Be Courageous, Be Beautiful, Be Gorgeous and Be STRONG!

TELL YOUR DAUGHTERS! WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO KNOW!